“Essay: Overcoming Barriers”
Why do brothers and sisters find it difficult to have a good relationship with each other at times? What is the best way to handle a situation by describing this problem, how to overcome barriers, and how to resolve our issues? Each of us has different personalities, so it can be challenging, especially as adults. However, their actions can speak volumes about a person’s character and traits.
As children, we argue, fuss, and fight. There are times we get along, but over time we develop into our own person as we grow. Over time, my brother has tried to ruin my reputation by telling lies or embellishing by creating stories. I tried to make our relationship work, but he has never put any effort into our brotherhood. He always has his hand out for money and went as far as to make a statement to my sister and niece that he hoped he made some impression after leaving the hospital that I would leave him something in my will should I die. His behavior is hurtful; it is not about brotherhood but the material things he can get from someone. He is putting our sister and niece in an uneasy position because they see the person he is much more clearly. How do I overcome the barrier with my brother and our relationship, and not let his character affect me?
What a complicated situation to handle because this is our brother, and I care about him. The only way to handle this situation is by keeping him at a distance. I have worked hard to build a personal relationship with many family members, friends, and colleagues over the years. Given his behavior, I felt that not having him around or involved in my world and keeping him at a distance was best. To respect my feelings, this will never be the same as my relationship with our sister. We have two completely different worlds, as he would call me a prince because I set a high standard with expectation and look for perfection within.
With this experience, I learned about ways to approach him moving forward and many other people, too! Realizing once children are grown, leaving the nest would determine a relationship in the future between siblings. Moving forward in life in a different direction, we create our world and, unfortunately, may not include brothers or sisters, sadly to say.
Overcoming barriers with my brother has been a tumultuous relationship over these years. This is the best way to handle this situation and describe my issues with my siblings. Learning that not all siblings have your best interest due to their lack of character, dishonesty, and face value, how can one live with oneself? We need to respect their ways, even though we may not agree. By their actions, we need to respond accordingly. Any healthy relationship is measured with character built on respect, trust, and honesty.
Written by: Greg MD
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